June 2012
2 posts
“Tomkat are divorcing! Dawson can finally have his second chance!!”
lithiumbarbiedoll asked: Being single in SF isn't difficult, it's just not something many prefer and it's hard to find when so many people are enticed by a 'relationship' mine the monogamy, usually sex friends is what most want.
March 2012
4 posts
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“You’re like a filet sirloin. There’s no way you’re filet...”
– Sweet nothings whispered
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sidekicks.
Arya: What's his name again?
Taylor: It's Robin.
Arya: Really?
Taylor: I know, weird.
Arya: Weird that his name is Robin? Or weird that you want to be his Batman?
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online dating goes offline.
Taylor here…still trudging along the online dating scene…
Sorry, I’ve been MIA for a few weeks and that’s because PROJECT HEM ended. What did I learn from that whole exhausting (excruciating) experience? That I REALLY hate online dating. For the most part, it seems I’m always meeting socially awkward people.
So, I’ve decided to try something else…online...
February 2012
2 posts
January 2012
3 posts
4 tags
“I knew I was a baby when I met him, but with Johnny I never wanted not to be...”
– Lil, dated Johnny for 9 years, married for 3.
“He needs a girlfriend upgrade. Sign me up for that.”
– Arya after meeting a crush’s girl who clearly did not make an impression.
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uber alpha male.
Exhibit 353: Scott, 27, web-developer by day, DJ by night and lunatic all-around. A young alpha male on steroids who shall grow up to be a wife-beating, jail cell-walking POS. Oops, did I really just say that?
I get a pretty normal, easy going - somewhat charismatic email from Scott. His profile picture is cute and playful. This guy must be funny. We naturally progress to exchanging numbers...
December 2011
13 posts
5 tags
Let go.
I believe in ghosts. They have unfinished business and often times need resolution. They seek closure or sometimes a reason, an answer, a response.
Exhibit 121: the ex-boyfriend from college that you thought you were going to marry and make copies of yourselves with.
He broke up with you to explore what else was out there. He learned that the grass isn’t always greener. He took a chance,...
They always come back.
So Jake (see previous “duped” posting) decided he made a mistake. Only he didn’t use those words, but that he wanted to “hang out soon”.
If you want to hang out, call a buddy. If you want a relationship, call me. I have enough friends. I don’t need another one to “hang out” with.
Thanks for returning my self esteem. Next.
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no photo not an option.
Online dating and not posting photos. That’s like applying for a job and sending your resume in with white ink. What’s wrong with you? If you’re going to take the time to craft an email, might as well take the extra second to attach a photo of yourself - photoshop’ed or not. Do you really need to wait for someone to respond with the obvious request?
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the intro.
Dating is tough. I don’t care what you say. If you think it’s easy, you’re 1) one of the lucky few that is involved with someone you actually like 2) married. happily. and don’t remember how hard it was. 3) lying to yourself and are succeeding well at denial.
For those who realize this inadmissible weakness and admit it willingly, know that you are not alone and that Arya and I feel your pain and...
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the rules of project HEM.
Start date: 10/11/11 End date: 1/3/12
3 months = 12 weeks = 90 days
Tracking potential prospects is mandatory on a shared spreadsheet. We will document the dates we go on, with who, and from which source as the weeks progress. Each week, a date is required. If a date was not secured, the stipulation is to plan an outing. Goal: have a drink or shot bought for the dateless party.
The interesting...
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it's a small world.
San Francisco is home to over 800,000 people according to 2010 US census. The city itself is 7 miles by 7 miles. I take the 30X to work every morning, and once in awhile I recognize someone. Not because I’ve met them through a friend or on my run in the evenings. It’s because I’ve seen an awkward profile pic of the guy in my “15 daily matches” email. Seriously though....
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mr. wishy washy
Incredible. The first time this happened, I let it go. I thought, “hmmm…this is a bit strange”. But this time. Wow. This takes the cake. The dinner date is set for 8:00PM at some new place that just opened up in the Mission. I’ll come pick you up, he says. Perfect, I reply. I guess that should have been my first clue.
Attention men: Do not ask someone out on a date via...
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mean girl, nice guy.
I’m not mean by nature. Neither of us are. Arya and I are really nice girls, I swear! AND we want nice guys. But, believe it or not, there is such a thing as being too nice.
Exhibit A: Steve, 35, doctor. This man has a contagious smile, is tall and has killer blue eyes. And did you catch that he’s a doctor?! Touchdown! Bingo! Yatzee! Bada-bing, bada-boom! Right? Not even close.
After...
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Change.
When we say we have battle scars, gaping wounds and casualties, we’re not being dramatic. I have my scars and Arya’s had her fair share. For me, as I look back to some of my past dating experience, I now realize I played a huge role in these wounds. I wouldn’t go as far as describing them as self-inflicted, but it was my actions and how I handled sitations that enabled or...
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duped.
I guess to do it in two weeks is better than doing it two months in or worse, two years in.
Was I smitten? For sure. I was definitely bitten by the smitten bug.
He squeezed my hand as we walked into this cute little hidden pub, saying, we’re trying this place out, together.
He took me on his favorite hiking trail and at the end of it, we stopped to watch the sunset. As the silence...
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“It’s funny, Ben is like the safe, loyal guy I think I feel more...”
– Arya, torn between two lovers
November 2011
11 posts
“He’s a massage therapist. I guess ambition is out the door. Dang,...”
– Taylor telling Arya about a potential date
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“My best friends bring out the best in me. I hope to find the same thing in a...”
– Taylor
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“Only happy when it rains by Garbage.”
– Taylor’s response when asked “what is a song that describes your relationships?”.
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the one you think you want.
Stupid how the world works. The one you don’t like apparently has you on speed dial, but the one that makes you laugh until you wee in your pants doesn’t seem to know how to use the phone. The crickets chirping have even gotten tired of chirping!
I found out one of my favorite indy bands was playing nearby at a gorgeous theater in town - Great American Music Hall. Equally excited...
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“The best way to get over someone is to get under someone else.”
– Rebounder
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“The goal is to go on your last first date.”
– Arya
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“Is it weird that I’m googling him?
No, it’s weird if you tell him...”
– Exchange between Arya and Taylor
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tragedy.
When you go on a second date with someone, if you’re not excited, or even have an ounce of looking forward to the evening, it’s doomed. Doomed like taking a girl on a second date to see an extremely intense movie about genocide. True story.
5 tags
“I think I could teach a dog to write better.”
– Arya after reading a MATCH email from a pursuer.
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“I’d rather try and fail than fail to try.”
October 2011
1 post
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“If you want something you’ve never had, do something you’ve never...”
– Arya, stolen from “Anonymous” 